It is easy to fall in love but it is difficult to maintain that love.

Do you ever feel that relationships are like an oil lamp, you need to keep feeding it with effort if you want the light of love.

People say, when you love someone, sacrifices are important. If you are with your boyfriend/ girlfriend, you may face little sacrifices.  You may love to watch an action movie, but your girlfriend may hate action genre. So, you end up going to movies that you both like. You may like Chinese food but your boyfriend hates the aroma of Chinese spices. So, you end up going to a place he likes or what you both like. These little sacrifices are part of life but we call them adjustments because they are tolerable.

A sacrifice is something that you give up when you really don’t want to do it. You agree with a heavy heart.

There are certain things in life that can take a toll on you. This happens more after you get married because then your lives sort of fuse together. Your decision impacts both of you. What if you love going for a vacation, but your partner is oriented towards saving money – to the last penny. A vacation is a time waste for him. Will you be able to make that sacrifice?  I guess, Yes. Not a big deal but it can bring some frustration.

What if your partner wants to take a high paying job in a different city. It is a matter of his/her career. But it also means destabilizing your career. Will you be ready to take that risk? Will you be able to sacrifice your career?

What if your partner wants you to have a baby at a stage that is crucial for your career. Will you cater to the demand and sacrifice your desire?

Now in such cases, people start weighing their love. “Don’t you love me enough to leave your job for me?”  and an emotionally charged person can say “Yes, I love you. I can do anything for you”

But this is not true love. True love is unconditional. One must handle such situations practically, not emotionally. One must calculate positive and negative aspects of every situation, before taking a decision, not merely leaving it to an emotional outburst. Love doesn’t require sacrifices. Love is not an effort. Whatever you do comes automatically from your heart. If that happens, then it is love. But if you need to oil that lamp frequently, to keep it going then it is merely pushing it forward.

Love doesn’t require sacrifices. Love is not an effort. Whatever you do comes automatically from your heart. If that happens, then it is love. But if you need to oil that lamp frequently, to keep it going then it is merely pushing it forward.

 

 

 

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